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An IRONMAN Shows Us How To Balance Ancient Wisdom With A Contemporary Lifestyle with Marc Landau
Push Your Limits and Become Extraordinary
How are you doing, Sean?
I’m good. After the show, it’s always incredible. My good friend, Marc, decides at the age of 46 to do an IRONMAN and run the marathon under four hours.
For anyone in our audience who doesn’t know what an IRONMAN is, it’s the most extreme version of a triathlon you can do. It’s a three-mile swim, a 100-something mile bike and then an entire marathon back to back to back.
At 46, he decides to go do it. Who does that at 46? He not only competes, he finishes but he finishes in top speed and he’s looking to qualify for the Kona one in Hawaii, which is you’re invited after you do five of these things. His words are inspiring. He is a man of true belief. He’s a guy who I love dearly. Whenever I feel down or upset, I call him and he’s always there to wake me out of it.
What I took away from talking to Marc is his willingness to consistently and constantly push his boundaries and choosing to do so because from what I’ve seen is people who willingly choose to step out of their comfort zone, tend to be some of the most inspiring and insightful human beings because they’re willing to go there.
He shows up all the time. Read his story. If you are feeling down or depleted, check him out because he is one guy who I put up there on my pedestals or I always look up to and realized, “If he can do it, I can do it.”
Let’s go learn from him.
Welcome to the show, Marc. How are you doing?
I’m good. It’s good to be here.
Sean, how are you doing?
I feel great. My life coach and my bestie is here.
Why do you call him your life coach?
He’s helped me my whole life.
He’s known you since before the injury, right?
Yes, he has.
What was Sean like before his life-changing injury?
Sean was always going a million miles an hour and always up to big things and was horrible at listening.
Tell us about who you are and why you do what you do? Talk about your courses. You’re the relationship expert, the wizard of relationships.
I am 47 years old. I am born and raised in the good city of Los Angeles. I have three kids. I have a twelve-year-old from a previous marriage. She lives in Atlanta with my ex-wife, bless her soul. I’m in a wonderful new marriage. We’ve been married for three years and together for four. We have an almost three-year-old daughter. We have a four-month-old boy and I am done procreating. In my twenties, I did the acting thing. I was in a relationship that was toxic. We had a fight one night and I put my hand through a window and they said to me, “You need to do this course called the Landmark Forum. I took this course because I was angry, bitter and resentful. It changed my life. It introduced me to the world of transformational work. There are tons of courses out there. If I could explain what transformational work even is, it’s an opportunity to stop for a moment. Everyone’s going a mile a minute. We’re all trying to get through this chaotic life we live in. When do you ever stop for three days and look at your life? Introspectively look at why you are the way you are now? How did you get to be the person that you are now? Why are the patterns that infiltrate your life there, why do they keep going? I did that course and it changed my life. I was very inspired. I ended up doing their curriculum and I ended up going on staff and working for that organization literally in the same year. In 1999, I started working for them. I worked for eight years and I coached over 100,000 people.
We met in 2001 or 2002. I did the Landmark with you and then I was working with you a lot.
I know we started off insulting you but you’ve always had such a huge heart. Your entire life is about making a profound difference for people. That’s all you want to do.
It’s what the show’s about, providing opportunity for everyone else to do something else or look at something and say, “I’ll try this. I’ll try that.” Not accepting where you’re at that moment and just showing up is what are our tagline is all about. I look at you and I go, “You’re so inspiring.” At 46, you did an IRONMAN and you in the marathon in under what?
I did a four-hour marathon.
A four-hour marathon after the water.
I swam 2.4 miles, I biked 112 miles and then I ran 26.2 miles. My goal was to do it under twelve hours and I wanted to run a four-hour marathon. I ended up doing an 11.39. My marathon time was 4:00:00.
The reality is, it’s not about your body. The physicality. You prepared your mind, your brain to go through that endurance, that pain and that suffering for twelve hours. Talk about that and your preparation of all your background with the Landmark Forum. You took that all in and that’s what got you to do this.
When I was working on staff at Landmark, I was working 70 to 75 hours a week. There was a common complaint amongst the participants that the Landmark staff was unhealthy. We work so long and we were pale because we worked under fluorescent lights all day. I got to this place where I wanted to change that cultural conversation. In 2004, I decided to do my first triathlon. I did the LA Triathlon. For six or seven years, I ended up doing about eight triathlons and it became my passion. I’ve always been about reaching or even striving to reach the potential of what it is to be a human being, living life to the fullest. How could I push my body to experience things that I’ve never experienced, to break the boundaries that I keep myself under? I fell in love with triathlon. When I left Landmark and I moved to Boulder, Colorado for two years, I trained like crazy. That’s like the Mecca for triathletes but my marriage tanked. I was going through a career transition, depression, not knowing where I was going and lost. I had seven different jobs in two years. I was selling ink and toner with ex-convicts. It was a dark period.
You came into my house and stayed with us in 2009.
That was a dark time.
You were in between jobs. You weren’t sure if you want to sell your bike to pay for whatever.
I did sell my bike to pay rent.
Your daughter at that time was two or three?
She was about three and a half.
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I moved back to Los Angeles after Boulder when I got divorced. I was flailing all around. One of the things that happened was my ex-wife at the time met someone else and he moved to Atlanta. I was in another toxic relationship that wasn’t working. I was so financially unstable that when my ex-wife came to me to move to Atlanta, I wasn’t in a position to even fight for my daughter. I had to tell the truth that she was more stable with them than she was with me. That was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. In fact, I regret letting her go to this day. We have an extraordinary relationship. Thank God to FaceTime. We talk every day. I go to Atlanta all the time to visit her. I have fought to have an amazing relationship and for her to understand that her father is present in her life. I stopped doing triathlons when I moved to Los Angeles. I was trying to figure life out. I’m in and out of relationships. I finally got out of this toxic relationship. I started taking over my father’s branding business. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and he was tanking his company and at that time it was appropriate. I knew how to run his business. I started to build his business back and he does branding for US labor unions, hats, jackets and t-shirts all this printed stuff, schwag, you can call it. I started to do that. I was doing some personal life coaching. I also found Buddhism. I was studying Buddhism at a very deep level.
In 2009, I do remember you called me and said, “I meditated for fourteen days.” That M word scares me. You went into the woods. Tell me about that.
That was in 2010 or 2011.
That was right before my stroke because I remember talking to you leaving that Jujitsu place. Something was wrong with me at that time and you come in and said, “I took a break and I didn’t talk to anyone.” I was like, “Marc, what are you doing? This is crazy.” Who would ever think that they’re going to take a break?” You were looking at me going, “Sean, we have to go do this.” The meditation word still scares me. Tell us a little bit about that journey.
As you go into that, was it a solo mission or a group setting?
A girlfriend at that time introduced me to this Buddhist teacher. There were nine of us and we undertook this curriculum. A man named Geshe Michael Roach who’s written many books out there. He’s a brilliant and extraordinary human being. He created a curriculum of eighteen courses that took 25 years of Buddhist study in Tibetan monasteries and literally boiled it down to an eighteen-course curriculum. There are eighteen courses and then there are another eighteen courses of tantric teachings, which are the higher teachings. We took the lower teachings. The quest for enlightenment began for me. All enlightenment is freeing your mind of mental afflictions. We are all afflicted. I ended up taking a set of vows. Buddhist vows are all about being a good person. I ended up doing a solo nineteen-day meditation retreat where I had a ritual that I had to do. I had to do 140,000 mantras and I had to do it in 21 days. I planned it out and I ended up finishing two days early.
Just so our audience can get a sense for it, what is a mantra and why do you do this as part of your meditation practice?
There are so many purposes for mantras but a mantra is something you say over and over again. A lot of times the mantras, I didn’t even understand what I was saying because they were in Tibetan. You say them over and over again and they transform you because the whole idea is you get out of your head. The vibration of how you’re saying it and you get into a very deep meditative state. You start to see new things. You experience transformations. You go inward and you look at yourself. You’re sitting there doing thousands of mantras. It’s very much like doing an IRONMAN. There are thousand times you want to quit because it’s hard.
How do you keep going?
The thing that keeps me going pretty much every single challenge I’ve ever done is my word. I said I was going to do it. I remember my first triathlon. I remember swimming in the ocean and I was hyperventilating the first 200 yards. I have this thought, “Where’s the lifeguard? Get me out of this. This was a bad idea. I want to quit.” I’m scared out of my mind but I said, “I was going to do this and I kept putting one arm in front of the other. I finished the swim, the bike and then the run. The same with the meditation retreat. I kept going. I kept doing it because I knew there was something on the other side of it. The intention of that nineteen-day retreat was to purify your mind. The hardest thing for me and the biggest realizations I had was when I left the retreat and I reentered society. You spend nineteen days with no email and no phone. I didn’t see a human being for nineteen days. I was in a cabin and you have some original thoughts when you do that. You start thinking things you’ve never even thought of.
Our audience isn’t going to go do all that and you don’t need to do all that.
I’m an extremist. When I do things, I go all the way.
In contrary, you’re Jewish and you’re a Buddhist. How does that play into things or does it?
I’m proud to be Jewish but it’s not who I am and I’m not a Buddhist either.
The common thing now with our kids is that we’re spiritual. The word of love is scribed amongst all the religions now. If we love each other, then everyone will get along.
It’s apples and oranges too. For me, Buddhism spoke to me. There was a man named Siddhartha or otherwise known as Buddha. He was like us. He was a prince. He lived in a world where he was unfulfilled and unsatisfied and he went on a search. He didn’t stop until he reached total happiness, which is enlightenment. He fought his mental afflictions and he fought to understand why we suffer, why do we suffer so much? For me, that’s always been my quest. We’re put on this Earth, we’re born, we’re living but yet we’re suffering so much and why do we suffer?
If you had to define that for us, why do we suffer?
We suffer because we’re born and we’re in these bodies that are filled with snot. You have to feed yourself, clothe yourself and you’ve got to deal with other people. These little things that are day-to-day. You have to brush your teeth every day, that’s a pain in the butt. When you get older, you’ve got to go work and you’re going so fast and we get lost. I got lost. This is why I meditate. This is why I do transformational programs because I love that experience when I stop and look at why I suffer. There are times when I too am going 1,000 miles an hour but why am I going 1,000 miles an hour? Why am I going so fast? Where am I going? There’s only here and now, there’s only the present moment. It’s why people like sex and hobbies because those activities bring us to the present moment if you’re having good sex and you have a great hobby. It’s all about being present. When you’re not present, you’re suffering. You’re either trying to run from the past or you’re trying to fulfill this future. Sometimes the future is not an inspiring one. It’s about your own survival. When it becomes about your own survival and your own making it, my experience is sadness. My experience is being unfulfilled.
You’re a human being and we’re all human beings. In the hospital, I learned a couple of things. When the nurse said to me, “We all peed and bleed in the same way.” We’re all a bunch of feelings and memories. Going into the trauma that you went through and the trauma that I went through, that anyone who’s gone through whether you’re a veteran or someone who’s having a bad day, you’re fighting the cancer, you’ve got through a heart attack, your loved one left you or they picked up and took everything and walked out on you. We all go through these feelings and this pain. What you taught me over the time is those feelings is just a moment and that it’s going to pass. It’s now in the past. Don’t let it live in the present or in the tomorrow.
To bring it back to you, there’s a reason why you were going a million miles an hour.
I never had enough, Marc. I wanted more. I was always going.
Hearing it from you, what’s your perspective on why Sean was going a million miles an hour?
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Couldn’t it have been something that’s easy? A broken ankle, a broken foot, maybe my shoulder went out or a hangnail but to have this?
In Buddhism, they talk about karma. Karma is a very elusive, mysterious force. If you understand the Laws of Karma, you could find a lot of peace inside your mind. It goes into past and future lives. I’m sure there’s a lot of debate. Whether there is a past or a future life, that’s not the point. If you could get, “I just had a stroke, I’m dealing with serious health issues and I almost died. Why did that happen? I’m a good person. I pay my taxes. I’m trying to do the right thing. I’m not killing anybody. How come this happened to me?” Maybe you caused some bad health with someone in a past life. Whether that’s true or not is not the point. The point is, how do you straighten out your mind now enough to where you can make peace with reality? The reality is you had a stroke and your left side is partly paralyzed. That happened to you. Does that suck? Yes, it sucks. Would you like to have full mobility and not for that to have happened? Sure. What is extraordinary about you? I know you’re dealing with being depressed around it or PTSD. I know you’re dealing with some of that stuff, but at the same time, you’re still wanting to make a difference. You’re still doing this podcast because you’re using this horrible thing that happened to you to make a difference for human beings. That is the key. I do know you still suffer because you’re a human being like the rest of us. You still suffer from being unfulfilled or being depressed or stuff like that, but you and I are working on that in the emotional realm.
That story is going to go away soon, I believe that.
Sean, that story is never going to go away because you’re not going to take away that story, but suffering about the story could go away.
In a way you’re you saying, change the relationship to the story and not the story?
Exactly. The story is the story. Sean had a stroke. Those are the facts. You had a stroke. That’s what happened.
You remember Sam said from his navel down, nothing works. He has catheter, he has a colostomy bag. His sexual organs that don’t work. He had to get quick that his male vitality doesn’t mean anything. That his sexual part is not working. He had to have a new relationship with his body and accept him for who he is. He was more of the man that he ever was. He got married and he does everything. He drives a car. He rails around. I look at him and he’s been twenty years plus. I’m eight years and I’m still learning to deal with what’s going on in the now. Even though I created the mantra, “I can, I shall, I will,” there are moments in time that go through all this. It’s funny, every time that I get into a down spot in my life, you show up, which is beautiful sign. I’m grateful on that because we all call in the Laws of Attraction of people who are there to help you on the next step. The mission now is you being on this podcast is not to help me entail it but to help the millions of people that we’re going to transform lives with. I know you’re always looking for the next best course and we’re going to get into the next thing that you’re now dealing. Let’s go back to a vegan. You’re a vegan and you did the IRONMAN as a vegan. That has all changed. Why don’t you walk us through why you were vegan? What has changed?
I’ll go back a couple years ago when we had our second daughter, my wife was pregnant. I, like many men, gained weight while my wife was pregnant. I was up to 178 pounds, which I’m 5’ 9” and for me, that was on the heavier side. I remember having a headache one night and my mother-in-law who lives with us and she happened to have a blood pressure machine. I took my blood pressure and it was high. It scared me. I had never experienced high blood pressure, especially coming off of being an athlete. Although I wasn’t being an athlete at the time, I wasn’t even working out hardly at all. That woke me up and I got back into cycling. I’ve always been an avid cyclist. Eventually, I woke up to wanting to do triathlons again. I had never done a full IRONMAN. I did half IRONMAN, which is half the distance, but I’d never done a full.
Immediately, when I started getting into this and my wife was for it, I said, “I have to do a full IRONMAN.” I started training and intuitively, I knew I didn’t want to eat meat. I know what it was. My wife and I watched a movie called What The Health. Five minutes into the movie, my wife and I turned to each other and we’re like, “We’re done with meat and dairy.” Literally, I went vegan the next day. There’s controversy about all these movies and whether it’s cited this way or cited that way, whatever. It inspired me what my life could be like not eating dairy and meat. I did that. I started training. I was performing better than I ever have as an athlete being a vegan. It’s been an extraordinary ride. What I’ve been dealing with as a vegan is I’ve been a little bit of a junk food vegan. Being a vegan, I can have French Fries and I’ve been having these impossible burgers, which are absolutely delicious. They’re close to a hamburger but I’ve been eating breads. I’ve been having cereal at night and cookies at night because I’m a vegan. I can do that and my weight is staying off.
Not milk, you’re having an almond milk.
The truth is even almond milk that I buy is processed. I started taking my blood pressure and even though I’m still training, my blood pressure is a little bit high. It’s not extraordinarily high but it is a little bit high. My dad’s dad died of a heart attack at 53 years old. My dad had Alzheimer’s and he had high cholesterol. I have three kids. I want to live a long life. I have a lot to do and a big difference to make and I don’t want to die yet. I know I’m going to die but I don’t want to die yet. I don’t want to die before my time and I want to live as long as I possibly can. My wife and I know this naturopath. We went to this naturopath and she did some muscle testing with me. She does a lot of Chinese medicine, which I just love. I love things that are ancient. I love things that have been around for thousands of years. That’s why I like Buddhism, meditation and yoga because they’ve been around for thousands of years for a reason. It’s the same with Chinese medicine. She started talking to me that she’s not for being vegan sometimes because the body robs Peter to pay Paul. You’re not getting enough of this or that and then your body is doing its thing to stay alive. Sometimes it’ll eat away at the muscle or something like that. There’s debate about this. I don’t even know the right answer and I’ve been feeling and craving eggs. I love eggs but I haven’t eaten an egg in over a year.
I’ve got a question for you, an MD compared to what you saw, what’s the difference so the audience can understand?
A naturopath is not an MD. It’s more holistic. It’s more Eastern. She does Chinese medicine, acupuncture. I don’t know if she does massage but she does a lot of herbs. She believes in whole foods, which is what I’m getting to. What I saw that I have not been doing is eating whole foods. I eat some whole foods.
What’s a whole food?
Something that has one name in the ingredient, celery. There’s nothing in celery other than celery, apple, and sweet potato. There are two words in sweet potato but in our culture, you have to use preservatives and all this stuff. I’ve been eating these grilled cheese sandwiches with this nice whole wheat bread that’s grain, gluten-free or whatever. I grill these vegan slices of cheese. I use Earth Balance Butter but intuitively, I know what I’m eating is processed. I had one period in my life where I was eating all whole food and I felt good. I decided to go back to whole foods and I’m not going to eat chicken or red meat.
My experience and my conversations I’ve had with people who have gone vegan is very similar to your story. There’s generally about a year, sometimes two years where they feel awesome. After that, there’s a fall off. I know there are probably multiple factors going in but I know one common factor is they’ll get depleted, specifically vitamin B-12. That is generally produced from animal products. There are a couple companies that are producing vitamin B-12 from microbes. When you stop eating animal products, your body stops having access to this essential vitamin. The reason most vegans will go a year or two years is because your body stores it. There’s a supply that it will store when people go vegan and when that supply runs out, that’s when they hit the wall. I’ve heard it countless times. I’ve never personally tried going full vegan for an extended period of time. I’ve had conversation with vegans and almost every one of them says, “I was great for a year and then not.” That’s a common experience. The vitamin B-12 is probably only one factor but it starts to paint the picture of balance. It’s the number one factor for your health and balancing your nutrition, balancing your relationships and trying to find that happy medium.
I am trying to find that happy medium. I got to this place also that I confronted where I’m like, “I had to let go of the word vegan.” I’m coining myself as a vegan and I have to be vegan. I’ve already told everyone I’m doing vegan. I did an IRONMAN being a vegan. Being vegan is incredible and for me having an egg every now and then or a nice piece of wild salmon so I can get those oils in my body.
How did that feel, the taste-wise?
I had an egg and it was so good. I had it with some black beans and some rice. It was all whole foods.
Did you make it or do you go somewhere?
My wife made it at home.
He ate an egg for the first time.
I had an egg.
The wild salmon, what did it taste?
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We just signed up for something new. You came over here to see what’s going on, “What’s Sean up to next?” Marc is always involved with anything I do, whether it’s my San Diego companies or the companies I started, Be Trū, or what I’m doing with the podcast. You came in here and said, “Sean, you’re going to hear this.” Within seconds I said, “I’m in.” That’s usual, Marc says, “You’ve got to try this.” It could be anything and because of the relationship that we have and the trust and love and admiration. Tell me about this course you took and why signed up?
I’m excited about this. A little backstory on this course, my wife and I after having two kids in the past few years, we have a four-month-old and almost a three-year-old. For anyone who has kids, having a toddler is very challenging. Our marriage was gone and we have a great life.
I wouldn’t say gone, it’s changed.
Marc and Michelle were gone. We were a mom and a dad raising our kids. I would go to work and she’s working part-time and taking care of the kids. We’re stressed. There’s no intimacy. We hadn’t had sex for a year. My wife is gorgeous. She used to be a dancer. She toured with the Backstreet Boys. She could dance and I’m very attracted to her, but she never wanted to have sex with me. I was resenting her every day because we weren’t having sex. The intimacy is gone and I know we needed to do something. We met at Landmark years ago. We both love doing transformational work. We’re fans of doing the work inside. We have an agreement in our relationship that we’re always going to be doing transformational work. We always want to peel the onion and look inside. It humbles you. It keeps you connected to growing and expanding. A friend of mine told me about this course called the Relationship Warrior Code. A man named Brett Jones in Australia has been doing this work for over 25 years, working with thousands of couples. It is about the king and queen rising and building a kingdom together.
One of the things they talk about a lot is two is more powerful than one. My wife and I were two. We were two people. We weren’t on the same page. We weren’t united. One of the things that gets brought up in this course is 100 years ago during the World Wars, men went to war and it was horrific and they watched their friends get their heads blown off and experience war. They came back from war-shattered and all they wanted was peace. While they were fighting, the women had to go to the factories and build guns. They had to handle the finances and take care of the kids. They had to become masculine. Come the 1960s, women’s lib. Women are equal to men. This created in our culture a 70% divorce rate because in relationships, men become feminine and women become masculine. The work that gets done in this course is very experiential and emotional work. One of the things that I discovered is a lot of the things that I do in my relationship is feminine. I didn’t know that. I wasn’t being someone who’s like, “I got this. I got the whole picture.” Financially, I’ve never made tons of money. I’ve gotten by, I’m still here. I’ve grown my branding business. It’s doing better and better.
There was this thing missing inside of me that I found out in this course was linked to me having my dad on a pedestal. I discovered that I had this emotional chest plate that’s 40 years old. I never dealt with my parents’ divorce emotionally at the age of seven. I lived in this story that, “My parents got divorced.” Monday, Tuesday we’re with mom. Wednesday, Thursday we’re at dad and every other weekend we switched. That was my story and it was fine. What I didn’t look at was that was hard. That was hard on me going back and forth. No wonder I’ve been ping-ponging back and forth in my life trying to please everybody. In my relationship with my wife, all I’m doing is trying to please her and that is feminine. Do I not want to please my wife? No, but when my life is about that, she feels that and it’s not attractive to her. We did this course and she got emotional breakthroughs and saw things with her mother and father. I finally got to take my dad off the pedestal and everyone else that I’ve put on a pedestal. How could I be king of my kingdom if my father is on a pedestal? All the work I’ve done, the Buddhism, the Landmark education, a lot of that is intellectual. This work is emotional.
What I dealt with are these emotional blocks that I had. No matter how much in my head, I’m a successful or can be a successful person, emotionally I was stopped. I’ve got to crack that open. My wife and I have a new marriage. We’ve been making love. Here’s what’s cool that they distinguished in that course. I’ll give you little goody, a little snippet from it. Men want to have sex to connect with the woman. Women want to have sex to celebrate the connection. I always wanted to skip that part. I wanted to skip connecting because for me sex was connecting. She and I have been totally connecting because women like to talk. Women use 28,000 words a day. Men use 7,000 words a day.
In this course, you shared that it’s intimate and small. The Landmark is a group. It’s a classroom size and this is more in your face on top of it and you will be with the group of people who you learn to bond and trust with.
In the Landmark Forum, we have 100 to 150 people. That works perfectly because you get to see how much you’re like everyone else. There are a lot of men’s workshops out there and women’s workshops out there. What I loved about this was my wife and I were in it together. We were dealing with it together and she got to say things to me that I have not been able to hear. When a woman feels heard, she feels safe and they want to celebrate and then I get to connect.
It sounds like to me so much of the work is emotional but it seems it’s awareness-based. Bringing to the surface things that you might not be able to be aware of on your own. You talk about having this Buddhist background. You meditated for nineteen days by yourself and did the Landmark Forum, but you still have these blind spots. It’s natural because we need other human beings to show us what we’re not looking at.
That’s exactly why I always do work on myself because when you’re just going through life, you just don’t ever do that. You don’t take three days and examine your marriage in a way that we did. If we didn’t do that course, we just would never have done that. Her mom took care of our toddler all weekend. We had to pay a nanny to come with us to the course. My wife is breastfeeding, so we had our baby with us the entire course, but the nanny had her. They were great at accommodating us. It was small. It was nine people. Brett Jones who created this work wants to bring this work to the United States. I have decided to partner with him in ushering this work into this country because I want to save marriages. I know this will lower the divorce rate. Not only that, it helps parents be a better parent. I’m a better parent out of doing this work. What’s extraordinary is my wife and I, she’s all about putting the kids before the marriage. You learn in this course, you put the marriage first. Since we’ve been doing that, we’re way better for the kids. Me, telling you about this is not going to make the difference. You have to do a course like this where you’re put into these processes, which he calls doing the work. You have to do the work. You have to feel those feelings and say the things that terrify you because otherwise, they live inside of you. That’s why I wanted you to do this, Sean.
Marc, you have so many things. You always start radiating and my heart starts going, “Here we go again.” As we get older, we get comfortable and complacent. There’s no room for comfort. I’ve always said you’ve got to be comfortable in being uncomfortable all the time. If you’re not, you’re not living life. You’re talking to somebody who’s never comfortable as is because of whatever I’m going through. People have to stop and take care of their inner child and themselves and put their past to rest and live in the now and live in the future and live in the tomorrow. Marc, as I’m listening to you talk, it resonates deep so thank you. You’re amazing. It’s phenomenal and you’re extraordinary. Thank you for showing up and being my friend.
You’re going to be leading this type of work coming to the future. I would love for you to let people know where they can access this work and take their relationship to the next level.
We’re starting to fill the third course ever in Los Angeles. He was going to come back next April, but we convinced them to come back January 18th, 19th, and 20th. We’re still looking for a venue, but it’s going to be an awesome intimate venue. The website is www.RelationshipWarrior.org. It has all the information. There’s a podcast and a YouTube channel, so there’s a lot of information about this. If you would like to get in touch with me, my email is MarcLandau@Gmail.com. You can ask me any questions and if you want to set up a phone call with me, I’m more than available to talk to you because it’s needed out there. If I spit, I hit a couple that’s dealing with this.
Everyone’s dealing with this. You have to make a choice though, either to live ordinary or live extraordinary. That’s the way I look at it because I have to play extraordinary because I don’t have a choice. It’s called being a human being. Thank you.
When you’re depressed, Sean, you remember who you are. You’re that kind of a person and that is extraordinary. You exemplify courage and heart.
Thank you so much.
- Marc Landau
- Landmark Forum
- Be Trū
- YouTube channel – Relationship Warrior
About Marc Landau
Marc Landau has coached over 100,000 people on how to maximize their full potential. His life’s work has taken him from a global educational company where he coached tens of thousands of people in personal development, to an intensive 18 course Tibetan Buddhist Curriculum (which was extrapolated from a 25-year curriculum in a true Tibetan Monastery). He has also competed as an endurance athlete in over a dozen Triathlons around the country. Marc has always pushed the boundaries on how he can live beyond a life of just surviving. From executives at fortune 500 companies, leading Hollywood film stars, doctors, lawyers, mothers, fathers, yoga teachers to veterans, Marc’s insight and wisdom in combining ancient Buddhist wisdom with contemporary lifestyle practices can impact the lives of everyone.
Having listened to such an enormous number of peoples fears, desires, heartbreaks, and setbacks, Marc challenges the realities that we get stuck in, offering thought-provoking and life-altering questions that enable us to transcend the rat race of life. Incorporating breathing techniques to quiet the mind and open the heart, together with deep analysis of what fear is holding you back, his clients emerge with courage to have those scary but necessary conversations that bring about deep connection and intimacy to the relationships we have with ourselves, those around us, and the world at large. He also insights people to take action.
As a child, Marc was fixated with the fear of his own death and leaving those around him. The ensuing paralyzation was lifted after he found Yoga in his twenties and began his long journey inwards. In his late twenties, he joined the staff of Landmark Worldwide, a global education company hosting transformational seminars and it was here he realized his life calling in coaching people through life’s challenges and empowering them to accomplish unprecedented results and maximize their true potential.
Something was still missing. Teaching someone else’s curriculum wasn’t maximizing his own true potential and he left that company after a decade of service. Rather than step up to the plate and used what he learned, he began to hide. His marriage fell apart, he faced financial ruin, and a battle of addiction and unstable relationships set in. Each encounter though taught him something and he finally found Tibetan Buddhism and his heart teacher Mirah. It was through this 18-course monastic curriculum, years of intense study, the taking of Bodhisattva vows, accomplishing several silent retreats including a 19-day silent solo retreat where he had to complete 140,000 mantras within 21 days that Marc began to purify his mind. He found his ground again and prepared to launch himself as the coach he always knew he was. It was in the 19-day retreat where he experienced the deepest and most profound realization of his life; that he could enjoy his own company without any distraction.
Marc also needed a break from Transforming and saving the planet at large, and humbled himself to run the company his dear father left for him, a branding company producing promotional products for US Labor Unions. “I resisted that company like crazy, I was better than it for a long time.” But what Marc discovered was that while he was committed to saving the planet and making a difference, he couldn’t pay his own rent. “My wife asked me one time, “honey, would it be enough to just provide for your family and run your dad’s business?”” Marc ran his father’s company and grew it and grew it, even through his father’s passing of Alzheimer’s in 2014. Through this time, Marc stabilized and began marrying ancient wisdom and contemporary lifestyle practices to help himself unlock and realize his own potential.
In the past 3 years, Marc has enjoyed the stability of running his inherited family business and it wasn’t until 2017, that he realized the bug for coaching and making a difference was still there. “I also discovered I buried my passion for being an endurance athlete.”
Today, Marc trains 20-30 hours a week, competing as a plant-based Vegan triathlete and at the same time, he is launching his very own coaching business. “As I opened my eyes to my own potential being realized, I saw this business as the opportunity to help others do the same.” Marc coaches others on how to maximize their true potential through both one-on-one coaching and group work. Based in Los Angeles, he is happily married and both his eleven-year-old and two-year-old daughters are excited to welcome Marc and Michelle’s new baby to the world in 2018… just after he finishes his first Ironman triathlon: a grueling race in Santa Rosa, CA covering a 2.4 mile (3.86km) swim, 112-mile (180.25km) bike ride, and a 26.2 mile (42.20km) run.